Brace Yourself.


Up against the wall… Well… Here are some tips.

1.) The wall maybe cold so Brace Yourself

2.) Remember in the moment he might not be able to think about holding you and adequately perform so put you weight on the wall.

3.) Sex upright is easier against the wall


If You’re Pregnant and You Know it….

Clap your hands…. I wish it was that simple.

I for one am pro choice, for various reasons.  Fatherhood is optional now days and there are other things that interest me more than motherhood at this point.  In terms of options to consider that is up to women, because at the end of the day the burden of pregnancy, labor and delivery, not to mention motherhood or adoption is on you.  I’ve always been responsible in terms of birth control, tracking my cycle, and carefully making note of all unprotected sexual encounters,  at times I’m too careful.  I’ve been a Plan A, B and C type, plan C not being abortion, but abortion always being an option.  I’ve been so meticulous not because I’m a raging sex addict who can’t get enough (well with one person I am) but because I want to be mentally prepared, no matter how unrealistic that sounds, for any decision I make.  My dad always says preparation is the key to success, so I like to be ready.  But on a serious tip I think that abortion is very personal decision and all options should be available to every woman.

As women we were given the gift to bring life into the world, I feel strongly that as women we have the right to refuse…. Lets be honest anyone who has thought they were pregnant before, and they considered themselves not ready to provide adequate care and guidance for another human being has been pro choice, even if only for seconds.  I applaud all mothers who are down for the struggle of single motherhood, I also applaud those who are not single mothers but put their lives on hold to raise a family.  My stance is just that I also understand women who are not willing to sacrifice their dreams and face extreme challenges to be mothers.  Realizing that my opinions are strong and motherhood is not all gloom and doom to the very essence of being a young woman in 2011.  I will end with this… make decisions that are best for you regardless of the consequences, don’t regret having or not having a child it is your life that will be most affected in the end.

Friends with Benefits…. "Friends" ooh really???

      I could write a whole book in the topic but I will only do a few paragraphs.  In order to have successful Friends with Benefits arrangement you have to realize that you are not really friends’ lol Friends are the people you truly care about and call when you need something or want to talk.  A friend with benefits is a person whom you can fuck with no strings attached and in order for it to be friends there has to be a mutual respect.  I would like to think that a friend with benefit realizes that relationship goes no further than the bedroom and the term friends only derives when neither party harbors feelings for the other.  In this relationship a woman should be able to sexually express herself with no judgment from the man and the man should be able to do as pleases without nagging from the woman.  Now we have address the double standard that exist in sexual expression, as woman you cannot have this arrangement with several men at a time the limit I think should be 2 or maybe 3 depending on how often you engage with your “friends” Friends with benefits may or may not create a relationship experience when together but has to understand that for some it makes the arrangement easier, for others it can blur the boundaries.     

In order to be a good friend with benefits you have to understand your role in the person’s life and not share too many intimate details of your own life; this is to create distance avoid attachment.  A friend with benefits cannot take things personal it is an arrangement of convenience and may end at any time for any reason. I would like to think that friends with benefits can exist between any 2 people but the reality is that not everyone is built for this type of relationship which is true for both sexes. As a woman there are certain traits not thought to exist in woman that has to be present. Women are taught that monogamy is an inherent trait that we have no wild oats to sow but alI do not fit this description.  I am sexually expressive and I like to experience all types of things and people. I believe that if we make sound decisions we should be able to experience what and whomever we choose. As woman we can feel like something is owed to men especially in this type of relationship.  We have to realize that respect is earned not given and if you let your friend with benefit treat you like a hoe that’s what you will be to him.  With that said the mutual respect that is the friend part of the relationship allows woman as well as men to dictate when and how often benefits are received.  As women we are not at the beck and call of the men in this relationship that privilege is only reserved for the leading men in our lives your friend with benefits is not a obligation nor a priority. If you have something better to do or just plain don’t feel like it then he you can say no or completely ignore this person. 

 This type of relationship is not for everyone and if you are clingy person who cannot control their emotions then this will not work for you.