Opinions are like orgasms…. What I’ve learned from having Loose Morals.


For the most part this has been my motto since I was smart enough to not give a shit about people’s opinions, especially when their opinion pertains to my vagina and what I choose to do with it.  I always simultaneously cringe and evil laugh when people insist that every sexual experience you have is a spiritual and emotional mixing of souls.  Because my morals are loose and my pussy is always tight there have been some hard learned lessons along the way; the biggest lesson has been about other people’s opinions.

Who I have sex with is my business and it’s best to keep it that way.  Unfortunately not everyone will give less fucks than I do, and the thing is, although I don’t have many to give about other peoples opinions. However eventually they will be encountered so I had to learn how to deal with them and not be ashamed or feel belittled.

There is a certain level of freedom that comes with being self realized.  I have learned to not hold on to people too tightly, people who genuinely like will do so regardless.  True friends will tell YOU when you’re wrong or sloppy, they will not tell everyone else you’re wrong or sloppy.  Being able to have friends around is very good and keeps you grounded as well as balanced.  You have to be able to be a popular acquaintance and a rare friend, many people will know of you and few will actually know you.

Sex is, to some people, a very intimate experience which is true some of the time.  I think that is important to be comfortable with the people you sleep with and comfortable with your decision after.  My best friend is not a person who can have detached sex for pleasure and she doesn’t, but that doesn’t make every experience for her a spiritual one. I do not think that she is any less liberated than me I just think that she mentally responds to things differently.  There are guys who have these same feelings and I know for a fact women have more sex than guys. Which is part of the reasons guys are so judgmental about body count… Oh yea if someone asks for a body count RUN.  It’s very immature to even care about that at this point, we should be more worried about protection and testing frequency.

The double standard is real but people will only treat you how you allow them to.  I have run into some sticky situations in group settings but I have never once felt that I am less than anyone or that I had done something wrong.  Carrying shame for things you have done that don’t negatively affect people is wrong.  Letting people treat you in a way that makes you uncomfortable is wrong; demanding that people respect you is not.  I have ran into guys I slept with while out with a new guy and I speak and keep moving because I am not easy nor am I doing anything wrong.  I am proud to say that I am cordial to majority of the people I’ve dealt with and they respect each other. Being around more than one guy you’ve been with in the same place at the same time is taboo,  I don’t really know why but being shameful brings shame.

Test the merchandise.  The worst thing you can have is buyers remorse.  If you’re not into it leave.  I do it for fun even, just get up and leave.  Before clothes come off if you’re not into it don’t go through with it. If you straddle him and don’e feel anything through his clothes, TRUST ME get up and leave; unless you’re into that sort of thing.

Do your thing, respect yourself, and demand other people respect you.


30 Days of Honesty: Day 30

One question or subject matter if I were asked here on 30 Days of Blogging Honesty I know I would refuse to answer or definitely lie about is…

I signed up to be honest so that’s what I would try to do no matter what the topic is.  However I guess I wouldn’t know until I was presented with a question that I was totally uncomfortable with.

30 Days of Honesty: Day 29

 My television is showing the same show on every channel. I really don’t mind watching ____________ (from the 1960′s) and I really love this show because…

Bewitched.  I Love this show I identify with Samantha being an outsider trying to navigate this life she’s chosen to live, with the man she Loves, despite her mother’s disdain.  I can watch reruns of this all day.  I feel like it captures something about suburbia even now, how cookie cutter like is expected to become. Bewitched also took stands against social injustice, during it’s run which is impressive on a show with very few characters of color.  In one episode Samantha and her husband were portrayed in an ad negatively because she was a witch, which in reality addresses topics including race and miscegenation.  Race also came up when one character painted polka dots on herself and her black friend so that they would be treated equally.

30 Days of Honesty: Day 27

I have an inner voice, and if a friend spoke to me the way my inner voice does at times, I would…

Ignore them like I ignore my inner voice on very regular occasions.  I really need to stop doing that because because for the most part my inner voice is always right. The inner voice is a very strong force and I really need to give it more credit.  The last time I didn’t listen to it, I didn’t lock my car doors because it was too cold to turn around and later that night my car was stolen.

30 Days of Honesty: Day 25

My biggest pet peeve that has nothing to do with blogging, being online, computers or anything else related to the Internet is…

When people don’t use common sense.  I hate having to over explain things or for someone to not connect the obvious dots. Common sense is something not all of us have and I have to be more understanding of these people.  Common sense apparently is not a common thing,

When people who are familiar to my apartment ask me where things are located before they took the time to look.  He is guilty of this and he knows who he is. Such as “Have you seen the ketchup?” …I guess because it’s not in plain sight in the refrigerator it’s missing? Hmm maybe I’m missing something.  Then he says “You had it last”… I sure did but after I was done I put it back, oh wait look it’s behind the orange juice.  Just take the time to look for things.