For the most part this has been my motto since I was smart enough to not give a shit about people’s opinions, especially when their opinion pertains to my vagina and what I choose to do with it. I always simultaneously cringe and evil laugh when people insist that every sexual experience you have is a spiritual and emotional mixing of souls. Because my morals are loose and my pussy is always tight there have been some hard learned lessons along the way; the biggest lesson has been about other people’s opinions.
Who I have sex with is my business and it’s best to keep it that way. Unfortunately not everyone will give less fucks than I do, and the thing is, although I don’t have many to give about other peoples opinions. However eventually they will be encountered so I had to learn how to deal with them and not be ashamed or feel belittled.
There is a certain level of freedom that comes with being self realized. I have learned to not hold on to people too tightly, people who genuinely like will do so regardless. True friends will tell YOU when you’re wrong or sloppy, they will not tell everyone else you’re wrong or sloppy. Being able to have friends around is very good and keeps you grounded as well as balanced. You have to be able to be a popular acquaintance and a rare friend, many people will know of you and few will actually know you.
Sex is, to some people, a very intimate experience which is true some of the time. I think that is important to be comfortable with the people you sleep with and comfortable with your decision after. My best friend is not a person who can have detached sex for pleasure and she doesn’t, but that doesn’t make every experience for her a spiritual one. I do not think that she is any less liberated than me I just think that she mentally responds to things differently. There are guys who have these same feelings and I know for a fact women have more sex than guys. Which is part of the reasons guys are so judgmental about body count… Oh yea if someone asks for a body count RUN. It’s very immature to even care about that at this point, we should be more worried about protection and testing frequency.
The double standard is real but people will only treat you how you allow them to. I have run into some sticky situations in group settings but I have never once felt that I am less than anyone or that I had done something wrong. Carrying shame for things you have done that don’t negatively affect people is wrong. Letting people treat you in a way that makes you uncomfortable is wrong; demanding that people respect you is not. I have ran into guys I slept with while out with a new guy and I speak and keep moving because I am not easy nor am I doing anything wrong. I am proud to say that I am cordial to majority of the people I’ve dealt with and they respect each other. Being around more than one guy you’ve been with in the same place at the same time is taboo, I don’t really know why but being shameful brings shame.
Test the merchandise. The worst thing you can have is buyers remorse. If you’re not into it leave. I do it for fun even, just get up and leave. Before clothes come off if you’re not into it don’t go through with it. If you straddle him and don’e feel anything through his clothes, TRUST ME get up and leave; unless you’re into that sort of thing.
Do your thing, respect yourself, and demand other people respect you.