I wish could send out an auto response to anyone trying to date me, as if they reached my voicemail… I hate text message conversations. Text messaging should left for quick messages that supply some type of important information, or used when talking is not an option but it should never be a platform for a full blown conversation. I was talking to my little sister who has a serious problem casually dating about her habits when it comes to texts. I told her that she was reducing her role by using this a primary means of communication. Here is why…
First off text messages are impersonal. They do not give you the opportunity to hear the pauses between answers the uneasiness in a persons a voice removing the nuances that give you insight to the emotions attached to the words; texts remove most emotion from the conversation. If you want to be impersonal use texts but if you want to get to know someone call them on the phone. I mean anyone who has ever had an argument they didn’t want to have through text, or otherwise, should understand this.
Text can be taken out of context. Sometimes text messages are confusing. I don’t understand acronyms and at times it seems like people just make them up. Also there is no tone in a test message so if you’re like me you have to figure out how literal, sarcastic or humorous the person is being. I end up in a never ending game of cipher.
Texts provide the opportunity to multi-task. He or she could be texting you and be on a date with another person. To me that means that the person clearly has no time for you and wants to group you into “things they can do while (insert activity here)” category. Further reducing your role and their interest. How can you hold someone’s attention when you never have their undivided attention. Or this can turn into constant communication. I have a job and texts are the last thing on my mind during the day and when I get home or ever, so I don’t usually fall victim to this, but text messages can give you a false sense of who the person on the other end is.
Text messages leave a conversation trail, you can’t deny something you sent in text. I like spoken conversation because they conversation is from my lips to his or her ear. It is not archived for any reflection out side of what is remembered; and when a person remember without references it shows that they are interested and pay attention to what you have to say.
I don’t text people I plan to be serious with I talk to them on on the phone or usually in person. My texts are reserved for quick concise communication. Not a in depth conversation.
I Love technology but text messaging is ruining the beginning of many potential relationships.