For those of you who don’t know, not being here for something means: under these circumstances this is outside of your standard of behavior or normal activity. Now that this is clear, I AM NOT HERE FOR…
Being a mother substitute– I Love to take care of the man I am with but, I want that man to be a man. Not needing me but wanting me around. A man who Loves his Mama is great, but a man looking for someone to pick up where she left off is not.
The Run Around– Say what it is. I am a big girl I can handle it and if you don’t know, say that. I hate situations where someone is giving me the run around because they can’t decide what they want or if they want it to continue. So instead of just being straight about it they start to give the run around.
Dirty Shoes– Call me super shallow for this one but it is true. I don’t give a man in dirty shoes second looks. Sad but true.
Show offs– I Love a humble, yet arrogant, slightly cocky man; they are my truest weakness. However I’m not impressed by basic Bitch shit. As much as I love riding in a nice car with an attractive man, it doesn’t make and sometimes it breaks my image of him. Men who have to show off what they have bug me. Humility and being humble turn me on way more.
Braids– If in 2012 you still have braids please don’t approach me. Enough said.
Dead Beat Dads– While I don’t usually go after men with children, I’m at the age where it becoming a more common thing. What I am not here for is a man who says he has children and I never hear about them or see them. Proud parents, fathers included, dote on their children and a man can only front on his level of involvement in his child’s life for so long. So while I am no longer against a man with kids I am particular about it.
Men who don’t like dogs or animals for that matter– I Love dogs, and I feel that there is something very human about tolerating animals. So if a guy says he doesn’t like animals it sends me a red flag. Actually I think he might be a serial killer.
Stupid Men– I am not talking about education level because I know plenty of stupid MBAs. I like to talk so being able to hold an intelligent conversation is a must. Intelligent conversation means having an opinion and being able to logically back it up with some type of reasoning beyond,” that’s just my opinion”; even opinions can have fallacious reasoning.
Jealousy– I am not a jealous person so I really don’t know if I understand this emotion. When a man is jealous in any sense of the word it completely turns me off. I Love a person who is happy for people around him and who is secure enough with himself to not compare himself to people in any way. Whether this means being jealous of people’s success or the amount of attention he is being given.
Baggage- We all have it but is in how we deal with it that counts. If you have trust issues because the last chick slept with your roommate, that’s ok but don’t treat me like I am going to do the same. I hate that people make it seem that only women carry these bags, when we all do. So if I am willing to recognize and try to drop mine, then I feel that he should be willing to do the same.