Is it just me or are people settling now days? My friend who is not American told me that my obsession with being in Love is going to eventually land me single, alone with a few dogs and my writings because it’s unrealistic to think that the passion will last forever. He explained that in his culture people don’t marry for Love, they marry for status and connections and the Love comes later. It is not an arranged marriage but you don’t go looking for Love you look for the greatest connections and status; that is how you pick a partner. I understand that over time you can grow to Love anyone, but is it just me or am I missing out on something. If all I look for is status and connections I don’t think about how this person affects my personality and make me an overall better person, I feel that I will never be fully fulfilled. Needless to say that I am a bit of romantic when it comes to relationships; recently being named the “Defender of Love” lol.
In my opinion, which is probably because I am deeply in student loan debt, not really on any career path and kinda just floating my way through life at this point; Love is a very important component in any relationship that I plan on being in for a long period of time. So yes, my views may be jaded by my current status but I hope that I would feel this way regardless of my position. It is very important to me, that you Love the person you choose to be with, that we take the time to understand how that person affects us emotionally and spiritually rather than economically. Status can only be so beneficial. I would like to think that if you find a person who pushes you to be the best you that you will ever be, then that trumps any status that person can provide. Now I know that Love can’t pay the bills, but it can make it easier if things go south and the bills end up not getting paid. Love can’t feed you but it is the glue that holds people together, it is the food for the soul.
Maybe it’s my thirst for Love that puts me on the never-ending quest to find it. Maybe there is so much about Love that I don’t understand that I have a very idealized view of what it should be like. Having been in Love I know what it feels like when it’s real and how complete you feel when its mutual. Now I know someone is going to read this and think you have to learn to complete yourself. I don’t think we were meant to complete ourselves I believe there is someone for everyone but you have to be patient and realistic when looking for him or her; being more open to the possibility of Love and less consumed with the idea that social positioning and status will make a person more compatible. I am not suggesting that you never give a thought to economics because it is an important component, simply I am saying that shouldn’t be the primary motivation.