Friends with Benefits…. "Friends" ooh really???


      I could write a whole book in the topic but I will only do a few paragraphs.  In order to have successful Friends with Benefits arrangement you have to realize that you are not really friends’ lol Friends are the people you truly care about and call when you need something or want to talk.  A friend with benefits is a person whom you can fuck with no strings attached and in order for it to be friends there has to be a mutual respect.  I would like to think that a friend with benefit realizes that relationship goes no further than the bedroom and the term friends only derives when neither party harbors feelings for the other.  In this relationship a woman should be able to sexually express herself with no judgment from the man and the man should be able to do as pleases without nagging from the woman.  Now we have address the double standard that exist in sexual expression, as woman you cannot have this arrangement with several men at a time the limit I think should be 2 or maybe 3 depending on how often you engage with your “friends” Friends with benefits may or may not create a relationship experience when together but has to understand that for some it makes the arrangement easier, for others it can blur the boundaries.     

In order to be a good friend with benefits you have to understand your role in the person’s life and not share too many intimate details of your own life; this is to create distance avoid attachment.  A friend with benefits cannot take things personal it is an arrangement of convenience and may end at any time for any reason. I would like to think that friends with benefits can exist between any 2 people but the reality is that not everyone is built for this type of relationship which is true for both sexes. As a woman there are certain traits not thought to exist in woman that has to be present. Women are taught that monogamy is an inherent trait that we have no wild oats to sow but alI do not fit this description.  I am sexually expressive and I like to experience all types of things and people. I believe that if we make sound decisions we should be able to experience what and whomever we choose. As woman we can feel like something is owed to men especially in this type of relationship.  We have to realize that respect is earned not given and if you let your friend with benefit treat you like a hoe that’s what you will be to him.  With that said the mutual respect that is the friend part of the relationship allows woman as well as men to dictate when and how often benefits are received.  As women we are not at the beck and call of the men in this relationship that privilege is only reserved for the leading men in our lives your friend with benefits is not a obligation nor a priority. If you have something better to do or just plain don’t feel like it then he you can say no or completely ignore this person. 

 This type of relationship is not for everyone and if you are clingy person who cannot control their emotions then this will not work for you.

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