There is no such thing a s friends with benefits- Once you have sex with someone its all benefits, friendship is completely dead. DON’T kid yourself by thinking you’re friends. If he does extra things besides blow your back out it’s because he likes you, or he may even be a good person who gives a shit. But friendship is non existent.
You may not have to be a self starter but it imperative to be self finisher- If you are having random casual sex you learn that it is an Olympic race to the finish and by finish I mean cum… The person who cums first wins. At the end of the day my orgasm is my concern his is his.
The guy you’re fucking wants to thinks he’s the only guy you’re fucking- I think that is self explanatory.
Disappointed??? Ithappens- As in all areas of life your reality may not match your expectations. Just because he is sexy from across the room does not mean he will live up to your fantasy. Sometimes even after his best efforts and fancy tricks you will be less than satisfied.
If you let him he will treat you like a heaux- Pussy is POWER. How you allow someone to treat you after you have sex with them is the basis of your relationship. I don’t subscribe to the heaux mentality but I know guys who think that because I felt like having sex with them once I am now their booty call girl. The easiest way to change this is to not be available. If he calls don’t answer and if he texts don’t respond. Sex happens on my terms when I feel like it. Unless I am receiving an actual paycheck from a person I not on call for anyone. Most of all feel no shame, if you are shamed of doing something you shouldn’t do it.
Size matters, but not really- Ok so size matters to a point but I have had better sex with a smaller dicked man than ones with very memorable sized cock. I am not suggesting that I wasn’t satisfied with both but chemistry and skill is much more valuable than size.
Be a freak but know your boundaries- I like different things with different guys. however one may know me as a straight freak and another may know me as just a good fuck. That is because everyone can’t handle everything. I do what I feel comfortable with who I feel comfortable doing.
I’m not one for fetish shit- So I push my boundaries but I don’t like too much of any given thing. Fetish guys are fun but when he asks you if he can jack off while you model shoes in an Elsa costume it gets a little weird.
If you deal with ain’t shit guy you will get ain’t shit results- Choose who you fuck wisely. I know there are some people who believe in this double standard that I choose to completely ignore in every way so I date and fuck guys who are open minded enough to do the same. Being a woman who has had A LOT of casual sex has not hindered my ability to find people who want to be in a serious committed relationships with me.
Morals and values are important- I joke about having loose morals when it comes to sex, but I and very comfortable with who I am. I have boundaries I will never cross and values that I don’t compromise under any circumstance. Who you choose to have sex with and the reason behind it are you business, and it does not define who you are. Only you can choose to be the type of person you want to be.