One question or subject matter if I were asked here on 30 Days of Blogging Honesty I know I would refuse to answer or definitely lie about is…
I signed up to be honest so that’s what I would try to do no matter what the topic is. However I guess I wouldn’t know until I was presented with a question that I was totally uncomfortable with.
My television is showing the same show on every channel. I really don’t mind watching ____________ (from the 1960′s) and I really love this show because…
Bewitched. I Love this show I identify with Samantha being an outsider trying to navigate this life she’s chosen to live, with the man she Loves, despite her mother’s disdain. I can watch reruns of this all day. I feel like it captures something about suburbia even now, how cookie cutter like is expected to become. Bewitched also took stands against social injustice, during it’s run which is impressive on a show with very few characters of color. In one episode Samantha and her husband were portrayed in an ad negatively because she was a witch, which in reality addresses topics including race and miscegenation. Race also came up when one character painted polka dots on herself and her black friend so that they would be treated equally.
Forgiveness is giving up on the past that we thought we wanted. – Oprah
Forgiveness is about letting go of the Hope that the past could have been different. In relationships we have to a learn how to get past the hurt by not living in the past. People make mistakes and it is in those moments we see who we are and what we can be capable of. No matter how much you Love someone you have the ability to hurt them. While this may not be your intention it can happen. In Love and in Life we have to be forgiving of the people who hurt us by living in the that reality. The reality that we are not perfect and that things happen for a reason. That everything we ever experience makes us who we are meant to be.
Forgiveness does not mean staying in an unhappy relationship, it simply means not holding on to the pain and carrying it with you. I know that everyone always says that we shouldn’t bring our past relationships into the current ones and I completely agree. Actually you should thank your past for preparing you for your future. Even if you decide to stay in a relationship after being hurt, it is imperative that you learn to move past it all. After being hurt and staying and then being hurt again, I learned that I had to be just as accountable the second time around. I had been hurt but I had also choosen to stay. I could not blame him for me staying, I could be disappointed that it happened again.
Forgiveness is not a gift to the other person but a gift to ourselves. It says that we let the hurt and pain go and that we are better for it. Forgiveness is a test a strength and courage. In order to truly forgive someone who hurt you, you have to be strong enough to face the reality of what happened and courageous enough to allow yourself to grow because of it. Just remember that everything that we go through shapes who we are. How we choose to deal with things and what we allow ourselves to learn determines who we ultimately become.
If I could do one thing that is socially unacceptable and know I would not be judged, I would…
I don’t really know I never consider social acceptability when doing things so, I don’t really have an answer.
I have an inner voice, and if a friend spoke to me the way my inner voice does at times, I would…
Ignore them like I ignore my inner voice on very regular occasions. I really need to stop doing that because because for the most part my inner voice is always right. The inner voice is a very strong force and I really need to give it more credit. The last time I didn’t listen to it, I didn’t lock my car doors because it was too cold to turn around and later that night my car was stolen.
I would break the law to save a loved one if…
Been there done that, luckily I didn’t get caught. I hold the people I Love in very high esteem so if it must be done…
Laws were made to be broken especially if they result in misdemeanors.
Is it just me or are people settling now days? My friend who is not American told me that my obsession with being in Love is going to eventually land me single, alone with a few dogs and my writings because it’s unrealistic to think that the passion will last forever. He explained that in his culture people don’t marry for Love, they marry for status and connections and the Love comes later. It is not an arranged marriage but you don’t go looking for Love you look for the greatest connections and status; that is how you pick a partner. I understand that over time you can grow to Love anyone, but is it just me or am I missing out on something. If all I look for is status and connections I don’t think about how this person affects my personality and make me an overall better person, I feel that I will never be fully fulfilled. Needless to say that I am a bit of romantic when it comes to relationships; recently being named the “Defender of Love” lol.
In my opinion, which is probably because I am deeply in student loan debt, not really on any career path and kinda just floating my way through life at this point; Love is a very important component in any relationship that I plan on being in for a long period of time. So yes, my views may be jaded by my current status but I hope that I would feel this way regardless of my position. It is very important to me, that you Love the person you choose to be with, that we take the time to understand how that person affects us emotionally and spiritually rather than economically. Status can only be so beneficial. I would like to think that if you find a person who pushes you to be the best you that you will ever be, then that trumps any status that person can provide. Now I know that Love can’t pay the bills, but it can make it easier if things go south and the bills end up not getting paid. Love can’t feed you but it is the glue that holds people together, it is the food for the soul.
Maybe it’s my thirst for Love that puts me on the never-ending quest to find it. Maybe there is so much about Love that I don’t understand that I have a very idealized view of what it should be like. Having been in Love I know what it feels like when it’s real and how complete you feel when its mutual. Now I know someone is going to read this and think you have to learn to complete yourself. I don’t think we were meant to complete ourselves I believe there is someone for everyone but you have to be patient and realistic when looking for him or her; being more open to the possibility of Love and less consumed with the idea that social positioning and status will make a person more compatible. I am not suggesting that you never give a thought to economics because it is an important component, simply I am saying that shouldn’t be the primary motivation.
My biggest pet peeve that has nothing to do with blogging, being online, computers or anything else related to the Internet is…
When people don’t use common sense. I hate having to over explain things or for someone to not connect the obvious dots. Common sense is something not all of us have and I have to be more understanding of these people. Common sense apparently is not a common thing,
When people who are familiar to my apartment ask me where things are located before they took the time to look. He is guilty of this and he knows who he is. Such as “Have you seen the ketchup?” …I guess because it’s not in plain sight in the refrigerator it’s missing? Hmm maybe I’m missing something. Then he says “You had it last”… I sure did but after I was done I put it back, oh wait look it’s behind the orange juice. Just take the time to look for things.
Given the choice between having to live the rest of my life without my voice, or living the rest of my life without the ability to hear, I would choose…
Without my voice. I am a writer it comes second nature so I have a medium to communicate. Even if that means I need to learn to write or type as fast as I talk because I plan on having a device that speaks for me in Morgan Freeman’s voice; it would be cool to have him narrate my life. Without my hearing I feel like I would miss out on some of the great things in life like music, and hearing the voices of the people I Love. So I am going to choose no voice because actually if you can’t hear, your voice doesn’t sound that great.
